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Setting the stage
for a great first date
The first prerequisite for a great first date is making sure it happens! There are 2 sources of anxiety when you meet someone new: Not knowing if they like you and not knowing when you will see them again. Establishing interest and getting your date dialed in is your first order of business. What are the best ways to do this? Here are some tried and true tips from our experts here at Table For Six Headquarters for ladies and gents alike!
“When Mr. Wonderful dials you up
try your best to take the call.” Let’s face it, Chivalry didn’t die when Women’s Lib began! Most ladies prefer that a gentleman ask for her phone number and set up a first date. A man who takes initiative gets major Brownie Points! So don’t be shy! Simply say “I’ve had a lot of fun meeting you! Would you mind giving me your number so that I can ask you out soon?”
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Once she gives you her number, let her know when she can expect to hear from you. The “Three Day Rule” is bogus. When a gal wants to hear from you, she’ll appreciate not having to wait. Never take longer than 2 days or she may begin to wonder how strong your interest in her is. So ladies, when Mr. Wonderful dials you up try your best to take the call. If you can’t pick up, return his call promptly, taking no longer than a day to call him back. He’s put himself out there quite a bit at this step in the game, so keeping him in suspense could discourage him from keeping the momentum going.
“Take some time before your date to relax.”
Your first phone call is meant to set up your date! So it’s best to know your schedule ahead of time and have a couple of suggestions for things to do. Remember, dates are perfect for getting out and trying new restaurants and activities. You may want to avoid your regular hangouts so your date isn’t ambushed if your bump into people you know.
The conversation does not need to be long and if your schedule is tight, try to schedule the date within 2 weeks. Being flexible and spontaneous is important for both parties to make sure setting things up is a breeze. If there is some distance, offer to meet halfway or offer to meet them in their neck of the woods next time if they drive to you. At the end of the call you should have a solid date marked on your calendar with a general idea of what your evening entails. Tell her you will follow up the day before to firm things up.
Lastly, take some time before your date to relax. You can do this while you get ready—allow yourself plenty of time and play some music that makes you happy. You will show up for your date refreshed, energetic, and looking your best. Your date will certainly notice and you have already set the tone for a wonderful evening. Here’s to your second date!
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Match of the Month What Theresa Says
"Mandy, I feel so blessed to have Wayne in my life. We see each other 2-3 times a week and we talk to on the phone every day. He's got a bit of a crazy work schedule, but we make it work and squeeze in together time when we can. As of last week we are officially exclusive. I introduced Wayne and his son to my mom last weekend and he passed her stamp of approval too. I am so looking forward to this summer and all the fun things we are planning to do together. This will be the best summer I've had in over 10 years!"
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What Wayne Says
"Theresa and I are still going strong, Mandy! She is really something else. We have had so many great times together since you set us up. I can’t believe that you found me a true lady in every sense of the word and she’s not afraid to get her hands dirty too! I took her fishing with my son and me last week and we had a blast. He really seems to like her too, and I trust his judgment, haha! She is so easy going and I can see us having a future together already. Thanks again for setting us up!"
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Matchmaker's Tip
"Having a fulfilling dating life is all about your mindset. Every single person out there has a lot to offer and is deserving of love and a happy healthy relationship…this includes you! You can begin to improve your approach by assessing your attributes - What elements of your personality do you value most? Which of your life accomplishments bring you the most pride? Reflecting on these questions will build your confidence and mentally prepare you to show the very best of your self on every date you go on. Never forget that you are an open invitation to love and happiness!"
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